Well, viking would have no reason to be aware of the ignition coils unless the vehicles were made by Audi. If they were in some other kind of vehicle and hadn't gone bad, he could've lived a happy and even successful life without ever knowing what they were. Some things are best left to the professionals, and that's exactly what I'd say about ignition coils. :)
Utopia? Perhaps. I can't help but think that the effect of not paddling their asses, as Bill so sweetly puts it, will be less lashing out in anger and less desensitization to violence. One less child punished with violence could be one less wife beater later on, and even one less is a step in the right direction. (stepping down from soap box) We need to do everything we can to tell our kids that it's not OK to hurt people. Not paddling their asses doesn't mean they get off scot free. Getting privileges taken away is much more memorable and meaningful, IMO. TV? Car? There's always something.
Sounds like you really enjoy your child/children. Are they grown up now? Happy, productive people? Got any grandkids yet?
I just have to chime in one more time and then I'll go away.
Discipline is but one facet of parenting. Maybe, just maybe, the trend of non-violent discipline will result in a less violent world. Maybe, just maybe, a better all-around approach of building character by promoting responsible choices won't result in a generation of juvenile delinquents. It could result in a generation of rational, compassionate human beings who relate to each other more effectively and can resolve differences without striking out to harm another.
Thank you. I sort of paraphrased and expounded on something I heard on a "Top Chef" episode I saw this week. I have to say, I'm sorry you ended up getting dragged in to this parenting discussion when you hadn't even been on the forum in a very long time! I'll have to look into my parenting crystal ball or book of wisdom to see how best to deal with bullies. A 75 year old man taunting people out of thin air on a forum, and then minimizing their formal education and professional experience. Priceless. (And for everything else, there's MasterCard.)
Have a nice day. I think I'll get on with mine.
"We have those "super nanny" shows here, too. In the first place, you're dealing with someone else's kids in these situations, and the children will regard the nanny as different from the parents."
You should watch these shows. Nine times out of ten, the nanny basically trains the family on how to introduce a routine and structure to the household, along with parental followthrough. Of course the children usually respond differently to the nanny initially, but when the nanny leaves and the parents actually use her tactics, a miraculous transformation is seen. Children who have routine, structure, defined boundaries, and consistent followthrough from parents rarely attempt to "get away with bloody murder" because they know there will be consequences. There have been several who were calling themselves "stay at home parents" while attempting to run a full time business from the home! It's more than just "being there."
Super Nanny's "naughty step," which is basically a "time out chair," is very effective when a verbal warning doesn't work. They DO stay put and most importantly the child must explain at the end of the sentence why they were there. If you have the proper level of involvement with your children, and they know that you mean what you say, then you don't usually have to spank them to help them learn. "Time out" stops the action, gives the child time to reflect and the parent time to calm down, and is more likely to give a lasting impression about the offending behavior than a spanking.
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